Secret Mommy-hood Confession Saturday #2
I suck at teaching my son his ABCs
On most days, I feel at a loss when it comes to him.
He laughs when I tell him to put his toys away.
He demands that you find him his blankie.
He will NOT GO TO BED before 10pm even though he can’t read time and has been up since 6am without a nap.
And he’s trained his little sister to take off his shoes for him when they come home from our daily walk. If I don’t stand there and watch him do it, I return to find Natasha taking it off for him. And when I say, Tash, Damian can do that himself, she says “But Damian nice. Damian give me ______ (cookie/train/car/candy) or Damian will (play with me/dance with me/share toys with me). He knows how to charm and bribe.
But my biggest struggle and the one that stresses me the most, is getting him to learn.
I love that he likes counting. And singing.
Really bloody loud.
But, Alphabet, no.
Reading time, only if it’s new.
Colors, maybe, sometimes. He actually knows them, but when he gets tired of you asking him what color is the train, the duck, this banana, he’ll answer you with slick answers, such as “red with white circles” when the train is blue all over and “that’s not a duck that’s a fire truck” and “banana? what banana?”
Getting my 3 girls to read, draw, learn their alphabet was/is super easy. They were/are eager to learn everything. Natasha isn’t 3 yet but can recognize half of the alphabet. The teens have 98.5 and 98.4 GPAs.
With Damian, whatever I can get into a 15 minute block of time, is all I’ll get. I’m not allowed to teach him the alphabet for more than 15 minutes. It’s like he’s got an internal stop watch. Once it hits that 15 minute mark, he says ok mommy, that’s enough. And A is for everything. A is for apple, A is for Ball, A is for cat.
And unless the books are for drawing on, he wants no part in them. I say it’s story time, he asks where’s the remote.
I’m absolutely sucking at this.
He’ll be 4 in August and we missed the registration date for pre-k. Not from me not trying, I can tell you that. Department of Ed gave me the wrong month. They said registration was in May. So mid-April I show up at the one school in our neighborhood that offers 2 pre-k classes, consisting of 30 kids each, to find I’d just miss registration day by 3 days. No exceptions. Called Dept. of Ed again, they were sorry I was misinformed and they couldn’t help me.
SO…I’ve got one more year to teach him what he needs to know for Kindergarten.
This shouldn’t stress me out. My teens didn’t have the Pre-K option because our neighborhood didn’t offer it and yet they went into Kindergarten knowing how to read and how to add and subtract.
I know it’s just the way I’m approaching it.
I thought the flash cards were cool. He likes the number pack but not the alphabet pack.
I though the foam letter puzzle was cool, I mixed them up, gave him 3 and asked him which was A. I told him if he got it right, he could put it back into the puzzle. He did get 5/8 right, but then got bored. Now I can’t find the letters and when i asked, he said he put them away. When I ask why, he said “no more learning time, you bad girl mommy, you mix up the letters”.
We have a gazillion books and he won’t let me re-read one. If I pull it out of the shelf, he says no, we read and he covers his ears. Every single time until yesterday.
He carried it up the stairs and tore open the yellow envelope to find a dino book from Pragmaticmom. ( i won it in one of her many giveaways. she knows books and gives away the coolest books ever.)
Not only was it a dino book, it was about dinos and cookies.
I’ve read that book 8 times in the past 24 hours and Damian slept with the book last night and at naptime today and took the book outside with him on our walks both days.
Yep, I’m approaching this wrong.
So wrong I’m sucking at it.
I’ve gone so far as to ask the doc if he could have ADHD.
Pediatrician laughed and said Damian is super friendly and already has a quick wit from what he can tell from their visits. He said 3 and 4 year old boys are pretty playful, more so than girls, and he just may not be ready for structure yet and so his attention span seems short.
I’m hoping his interest in this book is a new beginning or a cue that he’s ready for more.