Say it with me now…This Weekend Sucked
Seriously. Starting since Thursday. THIS weekend sucked.
I will save you the personal drama from having my mother live with me – the only hing I’ll say on the topic is, that indian tradition of taking care of your elders, can kiss my ass. I doubt the ones who came up with it, had a mother like mine. Also? I agree with the psycho babble that it begins with your mother. This is why I try my damnedest to be the person I am, to be a strong woman, an ambitious woman, a caring, human-loving-screw-discrimination and honest woman. I believe these will influence my children. What scares me about this line of thought though…some of us grow up to be just like our parents and some of us grow up to be the exact opposite. I am the exact opposite of my parents. I really hope the values I hold dear and try to instill in my kids will help them to be the exact opposite of my parents too.
So, how did the personal drama screw me since Thursday? I’ve barely eaten. I’ve barely slept. I’ve barely been remotely productive.
I have an awesome Friday Blogger Follow post sitting in drafts because I did not get to finish it. Going International Style with that one.
I’ve come to realize that someone I considered a blogging friend and who’ve i’ve tried to be supportive of, is just as bad as the bloggers I mentioned in the Comments post. Though this blogger only pretends to be a “big blogger”. Little by little I learn who to stand by and who’ll stand by me.
I finally merged the blogs, but i blew up this blog 6 times in the process and I didn’t get to redesign the new blog.
Today I was suppose to post my first Retrofit post here which includes a 1 year membership giveaway and a $500 discount for those who don’t win or can’t wait. Seriously, I’ve lost 15 lbs on this program in the first 11 weeks. Right now I’m maintaining because my butt has been glued to this chair while I work my tail off for weeks while hubby has been temporarily laid off. Thankfully I’ve learned enough good eating habits from my coaches to maintain. If you’d like to learn more about the journey, you can find my posts here.
And right now, I can’t even finish this post because I’ve got to run. I sincerely hope y’all had a better weekend than me.
Sorry for the rant, but sometimes, you just gotta let it out.
Before I go, I want to share with you a message my Retrofit program adviser left me on Thursday.
Hey Vanita…just a message for you as your start your day. Take deep breaths and bring yourself back to the current moment when your mind starts to wander to all the other stuff on your to-do list and you start to feel that crazy/overwhelmed/stressed feeling.
I know planning/prep feels impossible right now, but it will actually relieve stress for you when it comes time for meals and snacks, because those right choices will be available for you, you won’t have to have that inner battle of having no “good” choices available and feeling guilty after settling for something less than ideal.
You can do this – stay calm, stay focused and in the moment. – your team is here for you.
This made me cry.
I’ve gotta run. Catch y’all soon.
V
I always wondered what is a “big blogger”
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it’s does who find they’re too good for all their readers. those who feel only their click or bigger names deserve a response. blah. everyone who takes time out of their day to read my scrawny blog is a big deal to me and always appreciated!
So sorry this weekend sucked for you. Hope the week is much better. And like your program advisor said, take deep breaths and stay calm.
i’m trying i’m trying. i don’t know what i would do without the support of my fellow bloggers and my coaches. thank you for the encouragement and thank you so much for leaving a comment Jackie.
Honey. Aww honey bunny. Be nice to you, you have so much going on., I love your coach…does she do parties? Seriously, be easy on you, if you don’t take care of you the rest all falls apart. Huge hugs
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ya know chrissy i should seriously ask all of them to do a guest post. they’re so amazing. or an interview! what’s one Q you would ask?
Sorry about your sucky weekend. Booo. My Mom lived with us for awhile – impossible. But she was relatively young so eventually moved out. My dad-in-law was with us for 13 yrs. Totally different (good) and he passed away… ‘nuther story.
But even though it was “good” -things could still get stressful and annoying and sucky. Well, this entire ‘sucky’ thing could get pretty lengthy – sorry yours was.
Totally cool message from your adviser – I probably would have cried too! Hope it helped.
xo
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Kitty! girl thank you for sharing. sometimes i swear i’m the only looney who has their mother living with them. blah. my adviser and coaches are wicked girl! thank you. i don’t know what i would do without the support of my fellow bloggers. y’all rock!
Oops… the weekend was a busy one for me too. But yours worst than mine as I figured out. Ha ha… “The indian tradition of taking care of your elders”, whatever tradition it is, taking care of anyone including babies and elders never been easy. It’ll be a worst case scenario, if you never wanted to do that. If you love caring them, it has no friction and will driven by love. Psychologically, rant is what helps you to feel relaxed. Well, at least for some extent. Someone will find it really buggy, if they are just stop by to grasp something more for them at the end.
You know, it’s lot more easier to give up and mind your own business. My believe is no matter what how our parents are, even we hate them, we are responsible of them. It matters when it comes to our own kids. And you are doing the right thing, and mostly a difficult one. That should be appreciated. At least your kids will do in return
Personally I’ve no experience on this yet (I mean caring adults), even I say ‘em like I’ve been through. But I’ve seen more people doing this. I admire them really including you. But I can’t feel your exact situation, ’cause I don’t know how it really goes. As I’ve seen, that life is filled with unpredictable situations and mostly they have to sacrifice lot more.
Never let you down dear
Believe in what you are doing. You can care until they are with you. You can see how many blessings goes for you here. All of them will be with you 
Doing right thing is most difficult in lives – in realtime. C’mon, make it through. That makes you (Your best friend), a strong, courageous woman. Am I lying? 
Nope, this post is an evidence. You can find more time for your works with your in-built confidence and willingness.
You don’t need more time, you just need to decide. ~ Seth Godin
Cheers…
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Mayura thanks for the kind words. ppl have told me that they admire what i put up with. ppl have told me that though she’s my mother, “it doesn’t give her the right to walk all over me and make me miserable because she feels unfulfilled with her life. She made her decisions. I’m not accountable for it.”
i personally feel i should only be accountable and responsible for those i brought into this world. i try for my mom, but when you have kids to raise, you have to decide, what’s more important, your adult parent or your sanity
Ah! you really had a couple of bad days… C’mon chin up girl… you can fight it and you must have at many other occasions …
now smile ….
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i did smile, through the tears. i can’t tell you how many tears fell this morning when i checked the blog and saw all these comments. i’m so happy i’ve meet you all and i can’t think of a better community to be a part of.
Vanita darling, I am sorry you’re feeling this way. Come here, let me hold you and calm you down. You are a beautiful and strong person. Problems are always temporary. Remember you are loved. Hugs to you! If you’d like to vent it all out without mincing any words, you know where to find me. With love, Vidya
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Vidya girl, you’re asking for a whole bloody book. i can’t tell you how the comments this morning have made me drop tears. ppl who don’t know me seem to care more for my well being than those i’ve cared for for years. hugs to you sis. i do wish you were closer.
Wow, so sorry sweetie. Just like your adviser said, deep breaths. Try and take a few moments by yourself and just focus or meditate for a few. Ask for strength and guidance. I know a bad weekend can put a real damper on the upcoming week but the good thing about a new week, is we can try and start fresh. Much love and blessings coming your way V. I hope it gets better. Muwah! ~hugs~
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aww Brenda, you always make me smile girl. love that you’re not letting go of the blog yet! big huge hugs girl!
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Aw, so sorry it’s been such a tough few days. I hope this week you find the opportunity to redial. One baby step at a time. Much love to you.
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thank you Alison. much appreciated and much needed. this blogging community…it’s a grand thing, huh? better than neighbors. lol
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Hugs to you! I know about personal drama. By the way…my parents lived with us for 5 yrs. Now they live next door (2 family house). I don’t know how our marriage has survived. Other family drama I’ve watched play out over Facebook this weekend. Will people ever learn what not to post?! Glad we live 4 hours away. I am staying out of it!
Hope your week gets better.
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i don’t blame you sistah! hugs back and thanks for the support. it’s good to know i’m not the only looney who’s had a parent live with them. lol
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Not rubbing it in, but my weekend was great! I was able to be physically removed from my house, its occupants AND my responsibilities. Left on Friday and came home on Sunday and I feel FABULOUS!
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girl i am extremely happy for you. so when you road tripping this way? huh? huh?
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You know sometimes you just gotta let fly with everything that’s been sitting on your chest my friend-Believe it or not, venting, crying, screaming IS healthy! They are all emotions we need to feel and come to terms with before we can say, “Okay, I’m done.” and move on.
So vent away! That’s what your friends and readers are here for
Ahhh, the support of the interwebs!
I really do hope that this week is bright, new, and shiny for you. Oh, and of course full of happiness, contentment, and love. Can’t forget those!
Keep that chin up V. You are quite a strong woman and I respect and admire you for what you’ve made of yourself
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Kayla, I have missed you girl! thanks so much.
Hoping you have a much better and brighter weekend!
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thank you sis! sorry about the lord and taylor disaster. but no worries, you will be marvelous tomorrow!
Isn’t that great – the Retrofit email! Sorry you had a hard weekend… Blogging and LIFE sure does come with highs and lows.
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“Blogging and LIFE sure does come with highs and lows.” ya damn right about that girl!