The Man Behind The Woman
Sometimes I’ve got to sit here…
look at what I’ve been doing this past two years
look at how I’ve been growing
the things I’ve been achieving
the fact that i do it all while still raising my kids
and i wonder how did i get so lucky
as to marry this man.
did God just look down on me and say
“V, you’ve struggled enough on your own,
here’s some support”?
When the Winds of Change came along, I had no clue my life would change like this.
I knew it was about to get better, I just didn’t realize how much so.
Because of this man, I’m able to follow my dreams.
I’m able to watch my children grow, build beautiful memories.
I’m able to grow as an entrepreneur.
I’m having this kick ass time teaching this course.
I’ve made incredible friends online.
I’m actually learning to cook.
Because of him, I know what it means to be loved.
Because of him, I know what it means to not shoulder it all alone.
To not worry that there’s no one to fall back on.
Of all the people who’ve ever been directly connected to my life, he is the one who cheers me on and encourages me to take risks.
He doesn’t try to change my path, he supports me in finding my path.
Sure friends have cheered me on, watched my back.
But no one is as directly affected by my choices as him, and yet, he empowers me to make those choices.
So many have told me I should go back to work – ya know, like i’m not working now – get the financial security of a paycheck.
I’m sorry, how secure is it for me to rely on someone else to keep paying me?
And though we’ve had moments where we struggle and though we are pinching pennies now, due to my need to fly, we’re happy, our kids are happy and my little business here and this little blog continues to thrive.
Tonight, as I put together Exercise 5 for my class, as i sit here with my hair tied in this messy bun, exhausted and feeling sick, ratty old pjs, hubby asks me, why I’m not in the video I’m making.
I look at him and ask “Have you looked at me tonight?”
2006, the year we were married
He gives me this authentic lost wtf are you talking about look.
Love is bloody blind I tell you.
This man finds me beautiful always.
Even when I’m at my lowest.
Even when I haven’t combed my hair in 2 days.
This man looks at me and sees this woman he married 6 years ago.
The one who was always perfectly groomed.
Never at her wit’s end from chasing toddlers.
Always fully rested.
Twenty pounds lighter.
He still sees me as he saw me then.
Because even then, he saw inside me.
Not the outer wrapping and not the high paying job.
This is why now, though both are not as glamorous as before, he still loves me.
Because he loved ME.
He encourages me to be who I am, to take risks, to find my own path, to grow into who I want to be and he keeps loving me as much as he did before, maybe even more now.
He keeps supporting me and empowering me.
And today, I couldn’t be me without him.
You’re a lucky, blessed woman.
And he is a lucky, blessed man.
You are so beautiful together!
Alison recently posted..Foodie Friday: Salted Espresso Oatmeal Chocolate Chip Cookies
thank you girlfriend. i am pretty damn blessed i tell you
Vanita Cyril recently posted..Bomb In My Baby’s Belly
You are very lucky!! He sounds like such a great guy!! You two look so beautiful together!!
Darn you for making me cry! LOL What an absolutely beautiful post and tribute to one of the most important people in your life. I never knew what THIS kind of love was like until I met my boyfriend 2 years ago and I can honestly tell you I know what you mean! I never thought I’d be in this position, but now that I am, I’m loving every second of it
So here are to the men in our lives that make us better people! And think we’re beautiful even if we don’t. LOL
Kayla recently posted..Tickled Pink and Honored Contest Entry
Aww!!! That is so nice! I feel lucky like that too : )
Ann recently posted..It’s a Cinch
that’s awesome! that’s what i like to hear girl!
So blessed, and you know it. (:
Beautiful beautiful post.
Blessings to both of you~*
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thanks so much sugar
Oh dammit, woman! You got me all teary eyed and choked up reading this! Beautiful pay, V! You guys looks awesome together. Now I gotta find me a man who will do all of those things too
Maureen recently posted..Videos That Build A Bridge
So sweet! A good man is hard to find! Glad you found yours!
PragmaticMom recently posted..How To: Learn 100,000 Words by 8th Grade
i got super lucky…the 2nd time around. lol
Awww. I am feeling so mushy after reading this post. I know how you feel. I am also blessed to have a man in my life who supports me and my decisions at every level. What you said about loving the inside of a person, that is how my husband makes me feel. He also looks at me just like the way he used to 14 years ago when we first met. I loved your post and god bless you guys forever.
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thank you girl. i am happy for u too.