Why I Will Not Comment On “Big Blogs” Anymore
I read a really awesome post this morning over at Mama Wants This where Alison talks about the lack of commenting. Now I’ve got to tell you, I love Alison’s writing voice and I’ve been reading her blog on and off for a bit, but I never would comment because she does have a good volume of comments on her posts. Seeing the number count deterred me in the past from commenting. I’ll be truthful here, I never commented before because I didn’t expect her to respond.
Yes, I know, when you assume shit you make an ass out of blah blah blah.
But recently I read a post that I had to comment on and when I looked at the comments section, I realized Alison does respond to comments. I know it sounds stupid, but I sat there thinking about why I stopped commenting on most blogs and the fact that she responds to her readers encouraged me to start again.
Which I did this weekend and that taught me that not all bloggers are created equal.
Are your comments worth publishing?
I read a lot of “big blogs”. When I first started reading them, I would leave comments but never get a response. I soon learned that my comments need to MEAN something. They needed to benefit the conversation somehow. Ok, I get that. But if you’ve read the post and have had nothing to add except a compliment for the great post, is it better to not leave the comment or to show the blogger support?
I always prefer the support, ya’ know, in case you were interested, though i’m in no way a big blog. However, if you’re an internet marketer looking for a link back, you can go screw yourself.
So these days I only leave comments on “big blogs” when i have a question or something to share that relates. If i feel the post is really good, I’ll tweet it.
Am I pissed when I still get no response?
The fact of the matter is, it’s their blog and they can do what the hell they want.
- Blogger have the right to not publish your comment.
- They have a right to moderate your comment and with wordpress being so flexible, they can change your comment too.
- Some big blogs get so much spam that they don’t check their spam box and sometimes that’s where you comment can go.
- Many bloggers of big blogs don’t have the time to respond to everyone. As a matter of fact, a food blogger told me that a few weeks ago on twitter. She said she doesn’t have time to respond to readers.
So…the blogger has rights. We all understand that.
What about the reader’s rights?
If the reader has gone to the extent to take time out of their busy day to leave you a comment, whether it be a question, a story that relates or encouragement…
do they not have the right to get a response?
as long as it’s not troll-like or something that insults the blog or the other readers, do they not have the right to their comment being published?
What is the Comment Section For?
isn’t the comments section for interaction?
or is it just for social proof that you have comments?
i always thought it was a place to bounce ideas, support your fellow blogger, and build your community.
maybe i’m bloody wrong.
What constitutes a blog as being a “big blog”?
Literally, I have no clue.
Is any blog really a “big blog”?
Considering that in comparison to other blogs, they could really be little?
In my view, a “big blog” is one with a huge readership, authority and is really really really well known.
Why I won’t be commenting on blogs that are considered big.
Pre Alison’s Blog:
A year ago, I left a comment on fairly well read blog. It was a good post and a reader had left a comment. Since I had something to share that was directly related to the reader’s comment, I replied to her comment. I figured both the reader and the blogger would receive the notification of my comment.
My comment was never published.
I understand it being held for moderation since I was a new reader and it was my first comment. But i had genuine and helpful info to share so I wrote a comment.
So I left a comment on their next post. I checked both posts for days. Never published.
Now, it’s a blogger’s right to pick and choose what comments they publish.
Maybe the blogger doesn’t agree with your comment.
Maybe the blogger doesn’t like you.
But I never returned to the blog again. Why? Because coincidentally when they did respond to that reader, the response was very similar to the one i made.
Maybe it’s just great minds thinking alike. Maybe my comment just got lost in the spam box. who the hell knows? what irks me is that i took the time to leave a comment that was well thought out and helpful and it was a waste of my time.
There’s another blogger that I visited before she blew up and became “the shit”. She has about 50 comments per post now and doesn’t respond to anyone who’s as little as me. Meaning, all the big names, blogger known every fuggin where, get a reply, but I’ve noticed that a few others that never went “Big” including myself, don’t get a response. Only time i hear from that chic now is when her comment count is low.
Now, Post Alison’s Blog:
Over the weekend I left a comment on a very freakin well known blog. The post was a weekend project fix your blog’s seo. No response. Today is Thursday. As a matter of fact, no response to anyone. Interaction my ass.
Yesterday I left a comment on another well known blog in the mommy blogs community. My comment was published. I actually asked a question of the guest blogger to see what she suggested. The guest post was about moving from blogger to wordpress and I shared my thoughts and asked a question. I checked back yesterday to see if there was any response to my question and i found that someone had left a comment that i disagreed with. The reader had said something along the lines of you owning your comment once your domain is pointing to blogger and how moving to wordpress is a waste. well, you know me, i responded. I responded with a big comment letting the reader know that even though they own their content, Blogger owns the server space and can take their blog down at anytime. I then shared info from the post I did on moving from Blogger to WordPress. The comment did include a link. But not to me. To the guy I quoted in the comment. I guess because i added the link there to give the guy credit, my comment was held for moderation. Cool, I understand.
I checked back this morning, no response to my question from the guest blogger, though other comments after mine received a response. My response to that other blogger was never published. Which is cool, since I screwed up by adding a link.
I’m just glad that the reader was responded to by the guest blogger. With a response similar to mine.
Great minds think alike, right?
So here is today’s take away. yes, today, I’m giving you a bloody take away.
Alison is awesome.
Don’t assume shit.
You can pick and choose who’s blog you’ll invest your time in.
Your fuggin BIG BLOG would be nothing, NOTHING without readers. Show ‘em some respect and gratitude for taking time out of their busy life to leave you a comment. If your guest blogger is too busy or overlooks them, bloody nudge them to respond.
I won’t be deterred from leaving comments, but I will be avoiding blogs that have burned me and I will not return once burned.
Have you been burned?
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