LIFE
Personal posts about this woman’s life; marriage, raising kids, career and wellness
Say it with me now…This Weekend Sucked
Seriously. Starting since Thursday. THIS weekend sucked.
I will save you the personal drama from having my mother live with me – the only hing I’ll say on the topic is, that indian tradition of taking care of your elders, can kiss my ass. I doubt the ones who came up with it, had a mother like mine. Also? I agree with the psycho babble that it begins with your mother. This is why I try my damnedest to be the person I am, to be a strong woman, an ambitious woman, a caring, human-loving-screw-discrimination and honest woman. I believe these will influence my children. What scares me about this line of thought though…some of us grow up to be just like our parents and some of us grow up to be the exact opposite. I am the exact opposite of my parents. I really hope the values I hold dear and try to instill in my kids will help them to be the exact opposite of my parents too.
So, how did the personal drama screw me since Thursday? I’ve barely eaten. I’ve barely slept. I’ve barely been remotely productive.
I have an awesome Friday Blogger Follow post sitting in drafts because I did not get to finish it. Going International Style with that one.
I’ve come to realize that someone I considered a blogging friend and who’ve i’ve tried to be supportive of, is just as bad as the bloggers I mentioned in the Comments post. Though this blogger only pretends to be a “big blogger”. Little by little I learn who to stand by and who’ll stand by me.
I finally merged the blogs, but i blew up this blog 6 times in the process and I didn’t get to redesign the new blog.
No-Tell Motel to the Rescue
Midnight bottle and diaper changes killing your mood?
Non-sound proofed doors making it hard to”live in the moment”?
No where to unwind without teens arguing or toddlers pounding their baby sisters?
I know. Boy, do I know. With 4 kids it’s hard to find the time to not-be-mom and not-be-dad. To just be a woman and her man spending quality time together.
After Damian, my third child, my husband’s first, was born, we went weeks without “communing with nature”. Not that we physically couldn’t. We were just too tired. And when we weren’t tired, there was a bottle to make, a diaper to change, a colicky baby to soothe. Not to mention there were two tweens who also needed quality time with us in the face of new “competition” in the house.
But at some point, everyone gets tucked away, right? Time for that communing business, right? wrong. Time to take shifts. Hubby would stand guard the first half of the night, listening for Damian, while I tried to grab what sleep I could before my shift started at 2am. At which time, I would be the one to get up for Damian and hubby would sleep.
After 3 months of this, the crankiness started. Not Damian being cranky. Hubby and I being cranky, with each other. But fear for me not, it was only crankiness. Hubby and I have only had one major argument since we’ve been married and it ended in tears, each of us crying for the other. We’re not the loud fighting type. When he’s pissed he doesn’t talk to me until it’s built up and then he says in very few curt sentences what his issue is and tells me to stop. *snort* When I’m pissed, I tell him as it is and wait for him to apologize. Eh, it works for us. And it only happens occasionally. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that we’re the perfect couple, I just know when to pick my battles and when to let stuff slide. He knows when to let me have my way and when to put his foot down.
Secret Mommy-hood Confession Saturday
I miss sharing me here so I figured I join in on the fun:
*What sacrifices have you made since becoming a parent?
Ha! That list is so bloody long…
And it’s not even since becoming a parent, it’s since becoming a parent of toddlers AGAIN.
When the teens were toddlers, I was in my early 20s and really had no life outside of them and work. Probably cause I had no money. ha!
As the girls got older and I became the smancy fancy color guru, things changed.
I had a wicked salary.
I had GNOs.
Hubby and I would head out to Josie’s Pub on Waverly place to shoot pool and drink.
I got my nails done.
I got my eyebrows done.
I got my hair done twice a fugging week.
I shopped for me and my girls from hardcover books at B&N to at least one new outfit for me once a month.
I had a bloody iPhone.
Now I’m in my 30s.
I’ve got two more toddlers now.
I’ve got no bloody time to do anything alone.
I’m lucky I had two pedicures last summer.
Don’t you dare ask about the caterpillars above my eyes.I may have to start feeding them.
Hairdresser? What the hell is that? Don’t remember.
I don’t know when the hell I last had a GNO, had to be before the kids were born.
Nights out with hubby? Big bloody laugh. That’s never gonna happen for at least the next 4 years.
Also, I haven’t seen the inside of a barnes and noble in ages.
*How do you sneak away when you just want to take a shower by yourself?
My 7 Link Challenge
So my dear buddy Chrissy over at SoManyWays.net is in need of a real ass whooping cause she so sweetly nominated me to do more work. Imma kick your arse chica. Boy I love her.
The point of the challenge is to post links to 7 blog posts I’ve written that I like. So here we go in no random order.
#1 Winds of Change this being a personal post that I hope brought hope to those who have found themselves in a similar spot to the one I did. Hubby gone, 2 kids to support, unemployed, no hope for how I was going to do it all alone, my dreams of happily ever after shattered.
#2 How to Keep Your Penis. Things my ex husband should have known
#3 No-Tell Motel to the rescue Things every couple with kids should try
#4 The Here Today, Gone Tomorrow Dad What every deadbeat dad should know
#5 When Your Child Hates You When I realized having teens can suck
#6 Test Driving Triberr I guess cause I pissed people off and it was the first and only time I wrote a post that turned out to be a trending topic at the same time.
#7 My Mac is Dead? No Freaking Way! Because this post helped several people who all emailed me and thanked me.
So here are my seven nominees. Be a sport, play along and push the work off on 7 others. 
These women are all Kick Ass Moms that I have an extreme amount of respect and bloggy love for.
EyeGlasses on a Budget
I fool you not, WAHM + 4 kids + shitty health insurance is the main thing that pushes me to budget myself. Seriously, five years ago, while I was on someone’s payroll with good health insurance, I had the $$ to have a gym membership and hit the hair salon TWICE a week. Now we have a Malibu Pilates Pro and an Instyler. I didn’t even have co-payments when we were on the “good” health insurance. Now? Now, I’m lucky our HMO covers 80% of the cost for the visit with the ophthalmologist. Our HMO even encourages you to buy your eyeglasses online.
Buying Eyeglasses Online
Ya know, I buy everything but food and prescriptions online. Yes, yes, I’ve heard of FreshDirect, but I like going food shopping with my son. I hate dragging the shit home, but still, it’s fun with him.
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