I feel that when I came to these realizations, it brought me mental wellness, it made me see life, my life, in a whole new light.
Recent interactions that lead me to writing this post
My girlfriend Wendy recently said to me, “V, I’ve got to wonder, how much more does God expect you to take? Is God waiting to see how much it will take to break you or trying to make you stronger?”
A post by my friend Christal: Meaningless! Meaningless!
Now that you know where my mind is at. . .
My first marriage ended on a very bad note. Like many other first marriages, if they end. Mine left me with questions about why my life had to be so difficult, doubts about myself as a woman, insecurities about my physical appearance and responsibilities that seemed too much for one woman to bare.
In October, after I lost my job, I shared 8 Job Hunting Sites For The Out-of-Work Mom. These were the sites I planned to utilize in my job hunt. I’m still utilizing them. There’s been a few leads. On the very few interviews I’ve had, I came across and chatted with quite a few people. Of these people, I met three moms who were interviewing for different positions. Accounting, administrative assistant and office management. Each at different interviews. Two of the moms had children who were at an age where mom could return to work (one’s hubby was forcing her and the other was loosing her PA) and the other mom’s hubby had lost his job and both her and her husband were looking for new jobs to supplement his huge lost income, (due to the company he worked for going bankrupt). It was really taking a toll on her. She was missing her two sets of twins sitting in daycare.
It’s hard to be a mom of four who’s recently lost her job in a screwy economy. It’s even harder to be a mom who hasn’t worked in years and is now forced to enter the workforce in a screwy economy. I suggested my 8 job sites to each of the moms, who weren’t really internet/social media savvy, but now I wished I had reached out further by exchanging email addresses, because now that I’ve researched it, I’ve found a handful of sites that I would have recommended to them.The email would have gone like this:
Make TV watching a public affair.
I’m a mom of two teens and two toddlers. My teens hardly watch tv at night. If they’re lucky enough to have homework done by 8, they’re too busy chatting with friends or trying to finish a good book before bed. If it’s one of those rare nights when they’re “free” and feeling like tv, their only option is venturing out of their room to join the family in the family room.
I confess, I like watching Vampire Diaries, Three and a Half Men, That 70s Show and I’ve always been a Supernaturals fan. Do I watch it in the family room? No. I don’t think it’s appropriate for my family. I don’t even watch it in my bedroom (the only other tv in the home), because I’ve got toddlers who wouldn’t put up with a locked door. Vampire Diaries, Supernaturals and Smallville are all my personal favorites that feeds my love of scifi/fantasy and I keep those shows for my iPhone. Three and a Half Men and That 70s Show and similar sitcoms I’ll watch late at night with hubby, in our bedroom, when the kids are off to bed. My personal time. I don’t allow my kids to watch something just so I can watch it.