I feel that when I came to these realizations, it brought me mental wellness, it made me see life, my life, in a whole new light.
Recent interactions that lead me to writing this post
My girlfriend Wendy recently said to me, “V, I’ve got to wonder, how much more does God expect you to take? Is God waiting to see how much it will take to break you or trying to make you stronger?”
A post by my friend Christal: Meaningless! Meaningless!
Now that you know where my mind is at. . .
My first marriage ended on a very bad note. Like many other first marriages, if they end. Mine left me with questions about why my life had to be so difficult, doubts about myself as a woman, insecurities about my physical appearance and responsibilities that seemed too much for one woman to bare.
Make TV watching a public affair.
I’m a mom of two teens and two toddlers. My teens hardly watch tv at night. If they’re lucky enough to have homework done by 8, they’re too busy chatting with friends or trying to finish a good book before bed. If it’s one of those rare nights when they’re “free” and feeling like tv, their only option is venturing out of their room to join the family in the family room.
I confess, I like watching Vampire Diaries, Three and a Half Men, That 70s Show and I’ve always been a Supernaturals fan. Do I watch it in the family room? No. I don’t think it’s appropriate for my family. I don’t even watch it in my bedroom (the only other tv in the home), because I’ve got toddlers who wouldn’t put up with a locked door. Vampire Diaries, Supernaturals and Smallville are all my personal favorites that feeds my love of scifi/fantasy and I keep those shows for my iPhone. Three and a Half Men and That 70s Show and similar sitcoms I’ll watch late at night with hubby, in our bedroom, when the kids are off to bed. My personal time. I don’t allow my kids to watch something just so I can watch it.
A common line I’ve heard over the years from other married women is ” If he cheats on me he’ll lose his johnson”. As a matter of fact, recently hubby and I were discussing my ex-husband and his infidelities and I said to hubby that if he ever cheated on me, he’d come up short one johnson. The hell my ex put me through – not just the cheating, but also the verbal abuse and stress – could have drove any woman to madness and violence. In retrospect, the only thing that kept his johnson intact was the fact that we had kids that needed me, with them, not in jail or a psycho ward.
But, time heals all wounds, right? Well, time has definitely healed the wounds caused by my cheating ex husband. So much so, that I can actually look back and reflect on what a dumb ass he was. Really. If there are any husbands reading this, lousy cheating husbands, below are a list of things that my dumb ass ex husband shouldn’t have done. No, I’m not approving marital affairs. I’m not approving any kind of cheating at all. I’m just saying, if you have a significant other, and you’re stupid enough to cheat on her, instead of being a real man and working on the relationship or you just can’t find your balls so you can leave the relationship, here are a few things you should not do if you’d like to keep your johnson while looking for your balls.